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Guest Post: Pros & Cons Of One Night Stands

This post is a guest post by fellow dating blogger Zainab over at Tinderella Worldwide on a topic this blog has’t yet covered: one night stands. She’s super-lovely so if you enjoyed this post please make sure to check out her blog, and follow her on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram

One night stands have a pretty bad reputation. I mean, they’re not something you’d brag about to your extended family, even if Aunty Doris was a stripper. However, they aren’t solely the territory of drunk students and investment bankers and are a lot more widely accepted in society these days. I think. So here are some pros and cons which may help you decide whether they’re your cup of tea.

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Miscellaneous

Valentine’s Gifts From Lovehoney

It was Valentine’s Day yesterday. This post may have been better going live then, but I may have had a date that night, got a little distracted and forgot to post (sorry). For some of you, Valentine’s Day may have meant celebrating with your partner, exchanging gifts, and generally feeling smug. Some of you single folk may have got organised and planned a single friends meal out or signed up for a dating event, feeling ready to enjoy the evening despite lacking a bae. Others may have been stuck at home, reenacting the “all by myself” scene in Bridget Jones’ Diary, or just generally feeling miserable.

If you fell into the third category, I have a suggestion. WHY NOT BUY YOURSELF A SEX TOY?!

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Thoughts

Why You Should Be Picky

A week ago, I was shopping on ASOS. My profile pictures are looking a little tired, so to liven things up I was planning on doing a photoshoot with my photographer friend. I needed a new dress or skirt and top combo that would reflect my “brand”, as it were. Something pretty. Not to smart, not too casual. Feminine, fairly modest but still sexy. Modern traditional. I couldn’t seem to find anything that seemed right. Eventually I settled on one little number, but I just wasn’t sure. I wasn’t that enthusiastic. So I left it.

Later on, I took at look at the River Island website, and saw this gorgeous 1950s style tea dress. In 5 DIFFERENT COLOURS. So I bought my favourite, stuck the others on my Christmas list, and was so happy I didn’t buy the other one.

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Thoughts

Relationship, Shag, No

I have a friend, who for the sake of this post, we’ll call him Jim. Most of my friends met The One at 18 and are now in a long-term relationship, cohabiting, or married, so myself and Jim are one of the few single people left, and we often talk about dating.

He says that when he goes on a first date, within the first 10 minutes, he has allotted the girl into one of three categories: Relationship, Shag, or No.

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Lists

26 Things Learned By 26

I turned 26 this weekend. I was going to write one of those “X Things Learned By X Age” posts to make the #SundayBlogShare the day after. However, I forgot I can’t handle spirits, so on my birthday celebrations the night before, I drank a load of homemade cocktails and vodka-and-mixers during predrinks, then more vodka at the club. Was a good night, but ended up spending the next day in bed feeling like my head was about to split open, and running back and forth to the bathroom vomiting.

Sooo that’s why the post didn’t appear on Sunday. But I thought it was a cool idea, so here it is now.

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Thoughts

Tyrese Gibson, And Judgement

So this video on Bet by actor Tyrese Gibson has been making the rounds recently.

For those of you who don’t have audio or can’t be bothered to watch the video, basically he offers some rather sketchy dating “advice” to women:

“I’m gonna tell you all right now, and this might be harsh — sluts, skeezers, hoes, tramps and overly aggressive promiscuous women, they are never without a man because they don’t have no standards. They ready to have sex with any and everything that want to have sex with them. But when you are single, and you actually love yourself, you know your value and your self worth, you hold out until God sends you what’s yours.”

He continued, “So sometimes they be talking mess to women that are single but I have a respect for them because if you’re single and you might say, ‘I’ve been single for a couple years,’ whatever the case may be, you actually holding out because you have your value. You have women that are active out in these streets, they going to lunches and dinners every night. Private planes, mega yachts, it’s cracking. They’re never without. However, it comes with a cost, you gonna put a lot of miles on yourself down there, come on.”

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Thoughts

Dating In The Wrong Era

I was talking to one of my friends about dating at a gathering last weekend.

“Why do you think I’m single?”, I asked.

“Well, you’re looking for something that’s counter-cultural”, he said. “You’re kind of… dating in the wrong era.”

And all of a sudden- BAM- everything fell into place.

In life, sometimes I feel like I’m trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Particularly when dating.

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