Miscellaneous

I Won A UK Blog Award

Regular readers of this blog will remember that at the end of last year, I asked you to vote for me in the Dating category in the UK Blog Awards. I’m aware that I don’t have the largest following so I wasn’t expecting to win, but I thought it would be great to get on the shortlist, get a bit of publicity, and attend the event and meet other cool bloggers. That was what I wanted, and thanks to people very kindly voting, that’s what I got.

But then, something amazing happened. I won the award.

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Why Is No-One Blogging About Dating Anymore?

Something has shifted in the blogosphere. It’s something I’ve been feeling for a while. But no-one has really mentioned it. Until now.

Why is no-one blogging about dating?

A few years ago, I set up an anonymous blog for a bit to document my online dating experiences, along with a random mishmash of travel and lifestyle posts. During this time, Charly Lester’s 30 Dates Blog was in full force (which was one of my favourite dating blogs OF ALL TIME for the record), along with several other big dating blogs. Then, there was a huge community of smaller dating blogs, both on WordPress and on social media. I’d have people comment on my blog, find other cool blogs to follow, and have tonnes of engaging, dating-related content to devour.

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5 Reasons I’m A Bad Dating Blogger

Some people with the aim of making more money, breaking out of the 9-5, or becoming the next Zoella. While those things would be great, even if you told me I’d never make a penny from this blog and my following would be capped at the number it is now, I would still blog. Because I love writing about dating. It’s something I think about around 90% of the time. So it gives me joy to formulate my thoughts into blog post, hear your feedback, and chat about it with strangers on Twitter.

But I got thinking. I’m actually a really bad dating blogger. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not being self-deprecating about my writing style. But if you were looking for a dating writer and looked at my life, I’m probably the last person you’d pick.

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My Experiences With “Hyping”

To join ghosting, benching, and breadcrumbing, this week, a new dating term was added into our vocabulary- “hyping”. Essentially The One Before The One, the hyper acts as the warm-up act, before the hypee to then move on to the main performer.

Maybe you made out with a guy a couple of times but it never progressed to actual dating. He’d just come out of a serious relationship, he wasn’t really looking for anything, and it was disappointing, but y’know, that’s life. Next thing you know he’s got a girlfriend. Or maybe you were seeing someone, you wanted to DTR, but she didn’t. She wasn’t looking for anything serious, she wasn’t ready, and it was disappointing, but y’know, that’s life. Next thing you know she’s got a boyfriend. Or maybe you were in a relationship with someone, possibly for a weeks, a few months, or even a few years. But he didn’t believe in marriage, he wasn’t ready to settle down, either way it just wasn’t a “forever” thing, and it was disappointing, but y’know, that’s life. Next thing you know he’s engaged.

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5 Things I Hate About Dating

Dating. When it works out, it’s the best feeling in the world. The journey there however, does not run as smooth. We put ourselves through a never-ending stream of Tinder flakes and bad first dates, in the hope of eventually meeting The One. We long for the day we get married, not because we’re even that keen on a big wedding, but because it means we get to DELETE ALL THE DATING APPS FROM OUR PHONES.

Although (hopefully) it’ll all be worth it in the end, in order to vent my frustration and hopefully offer some entertainment along the way, I’ve put together a list of the top 5 things I hate about dating.

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The Insecurity Of Being Single

Confidence exists on a spectrum. On one end, insecure. On the other, confident. I’d say I lean towards the confident side. In a conversation about solo travel, my friend once remarked that I’m one of the most fearless people she knows. And she’d be right. I went through my insecure phase in my teens, travelled alone in my early twenties, dealt with a lot of hardship along with way, and those things combined made me blossom out of my cocoon into the glorious self-assured mid-twenties woman I am today. I’m not walking around with my nose in the air, but I know my own worth. I’m what you call quietly confident.

However, that confidence quickly begins to evaporate when it comes to men.

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Miscellaneous

Dating Blogs To Follow

So this blog has been up and running for a few months now, and I’ve managed to share quite a few of my own views regarding the topic of dating. However, today I’m going to share something a bit different.

One of the things I love about blogging is that it’s interactive. It’s not just about posting an article then fucking off. It’s about interacting on social media, going to events, discovering other cool blogs, and meeting other cool bloggers. So here’s a shoutout to some other great dating writers I think you should be following.

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6 Dating Rules To Break

Dating is a tricky area to give advice on, as you’re not dealing with facts, you’re dealing with fickle humans. So you could do everything right and get it wrong, or do everything wrong and get it right, if that makes sense. However, many people try, and some even earn a living from doing so.

While sometimes it seems like everyone is telling you something different, there are certain rules or advice that seem to crop up again and again. Some of it may be useful, but some of it I have to disagree with. Here’s when I think you should rip up the rule book.

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In Defense Of Tinder

First came online dating. Then came Tinder. Other apps tried, but never quite failed to gain the same level of fame. It’s just so simple, yet so effective. Do you think you could be interested in this person? Swipe left for no, right for yes. If you both say yes, message, then meet. Easy.

Yet, almost everywhere you look, someone has something negative to say about the app. Due to the low barriers to entry, anyone can join, which sadly means the app has gained a bit of a bad reputation as a hook-up app. However, I still think it’s worth doing.

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3 Things I Learned About Love In 2016

2016 was a big year for me. I volunteered with elephants in Thailand, had the nose job I’d wanted since I was 15, changed jobs, changed flats, and reconnected with old friends.

However, the one thing that eluded me was men. Don’t get me wrong, there were men. But no-one that I really connected with. Dating success is still something that I have yet to experience. However, they say that you learn more from failure than you do from success. So here are the main pearls of wisdom I picked up last year, in the hope that it will help you on your own journey to romantic happiness.

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