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5 Things We Can Learn From Prince Harry & Meghan Markle

In case you’ve been living under a rock over the past weekend, everyone’s favourite ginger Prince Harry has married the American Suits actress Meghan Markle. And whether you love the royals or loathe them, you have to admit that Harry and Meghan make a pretty damn amazing couple.

We can’t all marry a prince, but the latest royal love story can teach all of us a few lessons. So here are the main things we can all learn from Harry and Meghan’s whirlwind romance.

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The One Snog Rule

I have a confession to make. For a good girl, I’ve often had a tendancy to go for, for want of a better phrase, bad guys.

On my last night out in Tanzania during my gap year, (under the influence of alcohol) I kissed this guy I liked who was generally a bit of a dick and may have had a girlfriend at the time. We also semi-arranged to meet up on my last day. But when he texted me the next day to make plans, I had Taylor Swift’s “Girl At Home” playing on my iPod, and began reflecting. Perhaps in order to stop meeting bad guys, I had to, well, stop meeting bad guys. So I declined the invitation, and that was that. I expected to feel some sort of warm glow for “doing the right thing”, or for karma to align and a nice guy would suddenly appear from the sky. But instead, I just felt empty, and a sense of regret started to creep in. I mean, I was there for one more day. I was never going to see him again. Why not just go, and enjoy a flirt, a bit of attention, and a makeout session?

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Why You Should Be Picky

A week ago, I was shopping on ASOS. My profile pictures are looking a little tired, so to liven things up I was planning on doing a photoshoot with my photographer friend. I needed a new dress or skirt and top combo that would reflect my “brand”, as it were. Something pretty. Not to smart, not too casual. Feminine, fairly modest but still sexy. Modern traditional. I couldn’t seem to find anything that seemed right. Eventually I settled on one little number, but I just wasn’t sure. I wasn’t that enthusiastic. So I left it.

Later on, I took at look at the River Island website, and saw this gorgeous 1950s style tea dress. In 5 DIFFERENT COLOURS. So I bought my favourite, stuck the others on my Christmas list, and was so happy I didn’t buy the other one.

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Hindsight & Life Lessons

Sometimes I get frustrated with my lack of progress in dating. I’ve been on the apps for a good few years now but it’s been a fruitless endeavor. Sometimes I worry that I’m going to get older and it’s just going to get harder and harder.

But as I was reading through a post on The Rules Revisited yesterday, I realised that age and dating mishaps bring one advantage: experience. With experience comes lessons learned, that can help you in your dating life moving forward.

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Dating Advice That Hasn’t Worked For Me

Dating advice is always a minefield. Partly because you don’t need any form of qualifications before dishing out, and partly because people are so different that there’s rarely a “one size fits all” approach. I’ve written before about the bad dating advice that single people always hear. But today I decided to go down a slightly different route, and talk about the dating advice that hasn’t worked for me.

That isn’t to say it’s bad advice. For each point on the list, I know several people who have followed that advice and ended up in long-term serious relationships. I’m just saying that particular piece of advice hasn’t worked for me.

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Guest Post: How To Be A Keeper, Not A Pusher

Today I’m publishing my first ever (and what will hopefully be the first of many!) guest post on this blog. This one is by body and mind balance consultant Isabel Williams. Enjoy!

We live in a digital age and have constant internet access. Most of us have at least one social media account and we use it to post our thoughts online. Thanks to social media, we can reach out to our friends/followers and gain their approval by getting likes, comments and additional followers. It makes us feel as if we were celebrities because we have people reading about our dinner with friends or liking our new selfie.

But some people go as far as to associate that number of likes/retweets with how people see them, how people perceive their qualities and flaws. They start feeling insecure about their identities as soon as there is no positive reaction to their posts. So, they start obsessing with posting as much interesting content as they can think of just to make themselves appear more appealing, more interesting. More likes, more retweets, more comments, more reactions… ‘That means they like me.’

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Dating Etiquette

The explosion of dating apps is both a blessing and a curse. One the one hand, we’re now no longer fucked if we don’t find someone at school or university. No longer reduced to keeping your fingers crossed for an office romance, you now have access to unlimited amounts of singles looking to mingle at your fingertips.

However, increased choice and decreased consequences has also led to a decline in standards to behaviour. From ghosting to benching to hyping, new terms are invented every week to describe people’s shitty actions.

So to raise the tone, I’ve decided to do my bit for the dating scene, and put together a quick guide to dating etiquette.

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Bad Dating Advice I’ve Heard

The problem with dating, is that it’s an art, not a science. It’s not a simple case of do XYZ and Q will happen. People are complicated, many-layered, unpredictable. You can do everything right and get it wrong, you can do everything wrong and get it right.

That said though, there are definitely things that you can do to up your odds, or at least, avoid wasting too much time on dickheads. But dating advice is not all given equal. Over the years, I’ve heard many pearls of wisdom, but there’s also been some absolutely atrocious dating advice pedaled out, some of which I ended up following, with disastrous consequences.

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26 Things Learned By 26

I turned 26 this weekend. I was going to write one of those “X Things Learned By X Age” posts to make the #SundayBlogShare the day after. However, I forgot I can’t handle spirits, so on my birthday celebrations the night before, I drank a load of homemade cocktails and vodka-and-mixers during predrinks, then more vodka at the club. Was a good night, but ended up spending the next day in bed feeling like my head was about to split open, and running back and forth to the bathroom vomiting.

Sooo that’s why the post didn’t appear on Sunday. But I thought it was a cool idea, so here it is now.

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