Advances in technology mean that as long as you’re not weird over messages, it’s easier to get a first date than ever before. However, not all first dates are created equal. Unless you massively luck out, before you meet The One, you’ve got a hell of a lot of first dates to sift through who are well, not The One. So behold, here’s my quick guide to the main types of first dates you can expect to encounter.
To mix it up from the usual musings, dating tales, and reviews, I’m introducing a new feature to this blog. If Twitter is anything to go by, it seems a fair few of my followers live in London and are currently dating. Plus I thought I could gain a little search traffic from Googlers searching for places in a specific location, so I thought I’d start a series of London date ideas. For each area, my aim is to pick out a selection of cool, fun, possibly quirky, out-of-the-way, date venues that you may not have heard of, so we can all start going on better dates. Well, in terms of the location at least.
To start with, we have Oxford Circus. Anyone who’s been to London has probably visited this world-famous shopping strip. In the heart of London and the epitome of “bright lights big city”, Oxford Street is a sight to behold, but dates here don’t have to cost the earth.
I don’t know why, but the quality on the apps at the moment is really poor. The quality on Tinder is usually a bit better than online dating due to lower barriers to entry, and I’ve met a couple of decent people off it this year, but since I started my new job and got back on it, it’s just been dreadful. I find myself swiping left to almost everyone. And those I do talk to end up fizzling off after a few messages.
But all of a sudden, this French guy who’d disappeared for a few days popped up asking to meet up for a drink. I’m not usually into Europeans, but looks-wise he was definitely my type, so I went into the date with a positive outlook.
I went on a first date with a guy from Plenty of Fish the other week, and he mentioned that he finds he ends up going on a lot of first dates, but not many seconds. I realised I actually find the same too. With modern dating, particularly in a city like London, it’s pretty easy to line up another date, so unless you were in love after the first date, you don’t end up meeting again.
The positive side to this however, is that I’ve become a bit of a first date expert. I know what I like, what I don’t like, where works, and where doesn’t. So I’m here today to share my pearls of wisdom.
Every single girl on the London dating scene knows the feeling. You’re meeting a guy for a date during the evening, you’re hoping to go to a nice restaurant and have a tasty dinner… then he claims he’s “already eaten” and you’re stuck doing drinks instead.
I don’t know why, but men in London have this weird aversion to dinner dates. Not wanting to be a “blue pill beta”, they’ve always “already eaten” and insist on going for drinks instead… which end up more expensive than dinner.
Dinner dates get a lot of bad press, but here’s why I think they’re actually a great option.
From my very unscientific research from Twitter, I get the impression that people seem to dislike coffee dates. Women want the guy to “invest more”. And men… just rarely suggest them.
I on the other hand disagree. I mean, if you’re meeting someone you actually like, go ahead and splash out a bit more. But for a first date (blind date, that is), coffee dates are the perfect option.
I have a love-hate relationship with my birthday. I love celebrating it and receiving presents. However, I always dread being another year older, as I start panicking about all the things I should have done by that age but haven’t i.e. finding a man.
Anyway, around this time last year, I was starting to panic. The following year, I was set to hit the big Quarter of a Century milestone. My tough gym routine and fundraising activities preparing for my sponsored climb of Mount Kilimanjaro meant that I’d been on about 2 dates in the first half of 2015, but as the year was drawing to a close, I was starting to panic about not having found a husband yet.