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Guest Post: Pros & Cons Of One Night Stands

This post is a guest post by fellow dating blogger Zainab over at Tinderella Worldwide on a topic this blog has’t yet covered: one night stands. She’s super-lovely so if you enjoyed this post please make sure to check out her blog, and follow her on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram

One night stands have a pretty bad reputation. I mean, they’re not something you’d brag about to your extended family, even if Aunty Doris was a stripper. However, they aren’t solely the territory of drunk students and investment bankers and are a lot more widely accepted in society these days. I think. So here are some pros and cons which may help you decide whether they’re your cup of tea.

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Relationship, Shag, No

I have a friend, who for the sake of this post, we’ll call him Jim. Most of my friends met The One at 18 and are now in a long-term relationship, cohabiting, or married, so myself and Jim are one of the few single people left, and we often talk about dating.

He says that when he goes on a first date, within the first 10 minutes, he has allotted the girl into one of three categories: Relationship, Shag, or No.

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Tyrese Gibson, And Judgement

So this video on Bet by actor Tyrese Gibson has been making the rounds recently.

For those of you who don’t have audio or can’t be bothered to watch the video, basically he offers some rather sketchy dating “advice” to women:

“I’m gonna tell you all right now, and this might be harsh — sluts, skeezers, hoes, tramps and overly aggressive promiscuous women, they are never without a man because they don’t have no standards. They ready to have sex with any and everything that want to have sex with them. But when you are single, and you actually love yourself, you know your value and your self worth, you hold out until God sends you what’s yours.”

He continued, “So sometimes they be talking mess to women that are single but I have a respect for them because if you’re single and you might say, ‘I’ve been single for a couple years,’ whatever the case may be, you actually holding out because you have your value. You have women that are active out in these streets, they going to lunches and dinners every night. Private planes, mega yachts, it’s cracking. They’re never without. However, it comes with a cost, you gonna put a lot of miles on yourself down there, come on.”

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I Don’t Have Casual Sex, And It’s None Of Your Business

This post is a response to this post on Essays And Wine.

My name is Alice, and I don’t have casual sex.

Yep, I’m one of those girls. Maybe you are one. Maybe you’re friends with one. Or maybe you live in a bubble and would rather deny we exist. But I’m one of those girls who say things like “I need to feel a connection”. One of those girls who is on Tinder looking for a relationship. One of those girls who would happily be married with  a couple of kids by now, but just never met the right guy. Maybe I’m just the kind of girl you want to be mates with. Or maybe I’m your worst nightmare.

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