There are 60 seconds in a minute. 60 minutes in an hour. 24 hours in a day. The time it takes for the earth to rotate 360 degrees on its axis. There are 365 days in a year, or 366 if it’s a leap year. The time it takes for the earth to orbit around the sun. Once a year, it reaches the date of the day we were born, and we add a year to our age. We label ourselves by our years. We set ourselves deadlines; of what we want to achieve, and how old we want to be when we achieve it. But life doesn’t care about our deadlines.
Regular readers of this blog will remember that at the end of last year, I asked you to vote for me in the Dating category in the UK Blog Awards. I’m aware that I don’t have the largest following so I wasn’t expecting to win, but I thought it would be great to get on the shortlist, get a bit of publicity, and attend the event and meet other cool bloggers. That was what I wanted, and thanks to people very kindly voting, that’s what I got.
But then, something amazing happened. I won the award.
My previous post was about 2017. But that’s all water under the bridge now. Any drama that happened that year? That’s in the past. It’s time to move forward.
This year, I haven’t set myself new year’s resolutions as such. But I have set myself some goals to work towards, and I guess an overall vision of where I want my life to go. So without further ado, here are the main things I want to achieve this year.
It’s the final day of 2017. In addition to preparing for whatever New Year’s Eve shenanigans I have going on, for me the 31st of December is also a time of reflection. What happened this year? What did I do well? What could I have done better? What do I want from next year?
This one was an interesting year. I had high hopes for this year and a lot of aspirations, however I also had a lot of misfortunes which meant that that they didn’t quite go to plan. I feel like I’ve learnt a lot this year and, as cliche as it sounds, come out a stronger person. So as I get ready to turn the page and begin a new chapter, here’s a recap of my year.
Right guys, I’m up for an award.
The UK Blog Awards essentially do what it says on the tin- they are there to recognise and celebrate the best in blogging. One thing I love about the awards is that they’re so diverse; rather than just the usual fashion, beauty, and lifestyle blogs, there are categories for marketing, automotive, and of course DATING (although sadly there is no sex category- THIS NEEDS TO CHANGE!). Overall though it’s great to see blogs and vlogs outside the main clique get recognised. They also have categories for individual and company influencers.
This week is #AntiBullyingWeek, and to celebrate, I thought I’d make my first foray into lifestyle content by writing about bullying in the blogosphere.
Don’t get me wrong. When I’ve attended blogger events, the people I’ve met have been lovely. I’ve made a few good friends through this blog. I’ve been to a handful of meetups with the dating community, and everyone there has been really friendly and nice. I’ve spoken to plenty of bloggers via social media who have all been perfectly lovely people.
So I was nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award by Samantha over at Sami Talks Beauty. I literally had no idea what this was, but upon reading the post I discovered that the premise was you have to write 7 facts about yourself, then nominate 15 other bloggers to do the same. Pretty cool, right?
Something has shifted in the blogosphere. It’s something I’ve been feeling for a while. But no-one has really mentioned it. Until now.
Why is no-one blogging about dating?
A few years ago, I set up an anonymous blog for a bit to document my online dating experiences, along with a random mishmash of travel and lifestyle posts. During this time, Charly Lester’s 30 Dates Blog was in full force (which was one of my favourite dating blogs OF ALL TIME for the record), along with several other big dating blogs. Then, there was a huge community of smaller dating blogs, both on WordPress and on social media. I’d have people comment on my blog, find other cool blogs to follow, and have tonnes of engaging, dating-related content to devour.
Some people with the aim of making more money, breaking out of the 9-5, or becoming the next Zoella. While those things would be great, even if you told me I’d never make a penny from this blog and my following would be capped at the number it is now, I would still blog. Because I love writing about dating. It’s something I think about around 90% of the time. So it gives me joy to formulate my thoughts into blog post, hear your feedback, and chat about it with strangers on Twitter.
But I got thinking. I’m actually a really bad dating blogger. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not being self-deprecating about my writing style. But if you were looking for a dating writer and looked at my life, I’m probably the last person you’d pick.
For those of you unfamiliar with the concept (which I was up until I got nominated), The Liebster Award the brainchild of The Global Aussie- the aim is to help smaller bloggers grow and discover new blogs. If you are nominated for the award, you must answer all the questions set by the nominator, then nominate other bloggers, and so it spreads.
I was nominated for the award by the lovely Travel Bear, a travel and lifestyle blogger who seems to share by bad luck in dating. I then also got nominated by fellow dating blogger Eve Greenow, so decided to make this post into a bit of a fusion between the two sets of questions.