Thoughts

Golden

People blame dating apps for the bad behaviour we see on the dating scene today, but scoundrels have been around since the prehistoric era.

The year was 1959. Maureen had been engaged to marry John, but while serving in the air force, John had decided to pull a disappearing act. Or ghosted, as the term is now. He may not have been swiping elsewhere on Tinder, but shady behaviour has always been present.

It was Friday evening. Maureen went to visit John’s parents. John’s parents liked Maureen. She was petite and beautiful, with a heart of pure gold. What parents wouldn’t want their son to marry her? They expressed their condolences.

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Goals For 2018

My previous post was about 2017. But that’s all water under the bridge now. Any drama that happened that year? That’s in the past. It’s time to move forward.

This year, I haven’t set myself new year’s resolutions as such. But I have set myself some goals to work towards, and I guess an overall vision of where I want my life to go. So without further ado, here are the main things I want to achieve this year.

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A Recap Of 2017

It’s the final day of 2017. In addition to preparing for whatever New Year’s Eve shenanigans I have going on, for me the 31st of December is also a time of reflection. What happened this year? What did I do well? What could I have done better? What do I want from next year?

This one was an interesting year. I had high hopes for this year and a lot of aspirations, however I also had a lot of misfortunes which meant that that they didn’t quite go to plan. I feel like I’ve learnt a lot this year and, as cliche as it sounds, come out a stronger person. So as I get ready to turn the page and begin a new chapter, here’s a recap of my year.

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Miscellaneous

The UK Blog Awards

Right guys, I’m up for an award.

The UK Blog Awards essentially do what it says on the tin- they are there to recognise and celebrate the best in blogging. One thing I love about the awards is that they’re so diverse; rather than just the usual fashion, beauty, and lifestyle blogs, there are categories for marketing, automotive, and of course DATING (although sadly there is no sex category- THIS NEEDS TO CHANGE!). Overall though it’s great to see blogs and vlogs outside the main clique get recognised. They also have categories for individual and company influencers.

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Lists

Top 5 Harry Potter Couples

Last weekend, I was lucky enough to go to the Harry Potter studios tour. It made me realise that despite how irritating JK Rowling has become with her political antics (18 spare bedrooms!) there’s no denying that she’s one hell of a writer. The character development, intricate details and plot twists of the Harry Potter series even had a chick lit reader like myself hooked.

But of course, where would the series be without romance. From Harry’s first kiss with Cho Chang under the nargle-infested mistletoe to the happy ending at Platform 9 and ¾ 19 years later (and the directors’ terrible ageing attempts), there’s no doubt that love is a key part of the tale.

So in order to celebrate the much-loved franchise, I thought I’d put together a list of my top 5 favourite Harry Potter couples (feel free to debate me).

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Thoughts

The One Snog Rule

I have a confession to make. For a good girl, I’ve often had a tendancy to go for, for want of a better phrase, bad guys.

On my last night out in Tanzania during my gap year, (under the influence of alcohol) I kissed this guy I liked who was generally a bit of a dick and may have had a girlfriend at the time. We also semi-arranged to meet up on my last day. But when he texted me the next day to make plans, I had Taylor Swift’s “Girl At Home” playing on my iPod, and began reflecting. Perhaps in order to stop meeting bad guys, I had to, well, stop meeting bad guys. So I declined the invitation, and that was that. I expected to feel some sort of warm glow for “doing the right thing”, or for karma to align and a nice guy would suddenly appear from the sky. But instead, I just felt empty, and a sense of regret started to creep in. I mean, I was there for one more day. I was never going to see him again. Why not just go, and enjoy a flirt, a bit of attention, and a makeout session?

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Miscellaneous

The UK Dating Awards 2017

Last week, there was what was referred to as the “Christmas party” of the dating industry- the UK Dating Awards.

The UK Dating Awards were set up in 2014 by Charly Lester, the author of the #1 dating blog at the time The 30 Dates Blog. She noticed that there weren’t really any awards to celebrate the best of the dating industry- for example, in blogging, she’d often have to enter the general “lifestyle” category as there wasn’t a category for dating blogs. So she set up the awards to provide some form of recognition for the best in the industry, but more importantly, to gather everyone together to network have a great evening.

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Reviews

Doing It by Hannah Witton Review

For those of you unfamiliar, Hannah Witton is a pretty famous vlogger who covers sex and relationships, along with some lifestyle and politics/ feminism stuff too. She won Best Sex & Relationships Influencer at the Cosmopolitan Influencer Awards last year, and this year she released a book on sex and relationships, brilliantly titled Doing It.

I’m one of the few people who seemed to have a positive sex education growing up. I had sex education in school at age 9 that covered how it works, contraception, not getting pressured and the like, and I learned a fair amount from teenage magazines too. But looking back, it was quite one-sided. It seemed to be the expectation that you’d get a boyfriend, fall in love, agonize as to whether you’re “ready”, then have sex. So I got to 18 yet to find a boyfriend and was like whaaaaa? But plenty of people don’t get into a relationship until their twenties. Some people aren’t that fussed about sex “meaning something”. Some people are gay, bisexual, or asexual. Some people just aren’t that interested in sex or relationships at all.

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Balancing Friendships & Relationships

Who should come first- your friends or your partner? Is it OK to drop your friends for a guy? A question as old as the chicken or the egg dilemma, and one everyone will have a different answer to- that is likely to change with time.

When I was younger, I was very much in the “hoes before bros” camp. The combination of being very tall and very shy meant I was completely dateless throughout my teenage years; while others waltzed in and out of relationships, I was always the single friend. A couple of times, my friends would get into a more serious relationship, and I felt a shift.  We’d spend less time together. They’d bring their boyfriend along to events. I got “divorced” on Facebook so my friend could put herself as “in a relationship” with her boyfriend. I got, I suppose, downgraded in their list of priorities, which hurt because they still held the same place in mine. And I mean relationships come and go, but friends are there for life, so they should come first, right?

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#AntiBullyingWeek: Bullying In The Blogosphere

This week is #AntiBullyingWeek, and to celebrate, I thought I’d make my first foray into lifestyle content by writing about bullying in the blogosphere.

Don’t get me wrong. When I’ve attended blogger events, the people I’ve met have been lovely. I’ve made a few good friends through this blog. I’ve been to a handful of meetups with the dating community, and everyone there has been really friendly and nice. I’ve spoken to plenty of bloggers via social media who have all been perfectly lovely people.

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