I hit the Quarter of a Century milestone this year. Luckily, I already had the quarter-life crisis when I graduated and was like “what the fuck do I do with my life?”. However, there’s a new crisis that happens when you hit the big 2-5 and you’re yet to find a husband. The mid-twenties crisis.
Top dating blogger Paul Thomas Bell recently wrote a blog post on the top 5 dating mistakes he made (which I would definitely reccomend giving a read!).
Now, when it comes to dating mistakes, I’ve made my fair share. Granted, I’ve had some seriously bad luck. I look back on some situations, and think “I can’t believe that actually happened”. But I’ve also screwed up many a time. So to pass on my pearls of wisdom, or perhaps just give you a good laugh, here are the top 5 dating mistakes I made (in no particular order).
There’s been a lot of talk in the press as of late about Romanian 18 year old Aleexandra Khefren who is looking to sell her virginity for 1 million Euros.
Instead of doing the classic waiting for the “right guy”, finding a lovely boyfriend at some point in your late teens, having a big debate as to whether you’re “ready” or not before finally doing the deed, Aleexandra decided instead that she would sell her virginity to the highest bidder, and use the money to study at a university abroad and help out her parents.
We all have our dating preferences. Everyone has a “type”. Which is actually a good thing. Think about it. If you fancied every man or woman you met, how would you be able to get into a relationship and remain faithful? And if we all had the same “type”, we would all be pursuing the same minority of people. So the fact that we all have preferences, is actually pretty great.
Yet for some reason, sometimes if you express a dating preference… people fly off the handle. One of these is transgender vlogger Riley J. Dennis.
Every single girl on the London dating scene knows the feeling. You’re meeting a guy for a date during the evening, you’re hoping to go to a nice restaurant and have a tasty dinner… then he claims he’s “already eaten” and you’re stuck doing drinks instead.
I don’t know why, but men in London have this weird aversion to dinner dates. Not wanting to be a “blue pill beta”, they’ve always “already eaten” and insist on going for drinks instead… which end up more expensive than dinner.
Dinner dates get a lot of bad press, but here’s why I think they’re actually a great option.
From my very unscientific research from Twitter, I get the impression that people seem to dislike coffee dates. Women want the guy to “invest more”. And men… just rarely suggest them.
I on the other hand disagree. I mean, if you’re meeting someone you actually like, go ahead and splash out a bit more. But for a first date (blind date, that is), coffee dates are the perfect option.
Social media. Great way of staying in touch with friends who live far away from you and finding new blogs to follow. However, unfortunately, sometimes it turns into the adult equivalent of the playground. There’s just so. Much. Drama.
One situation I observed recently goes as follows. A man (for the sake of this blog post, let’s call him Billy) launched a dating blog, got quite active in the Twitter blogging community, made friends, and came across as a general all-round nice guy. However, after a while, it became apparent that Billy was after… more than friendship. Two female bloggers had got together, and realised that they were both dating the same guy: Billy.